One thing I have learned is, that PARENTHOOD is the HARDEST job in the world. It is also the greatest gift given to any parent!
If you are not a parent you have noooo idea! The most difficult part is the discipline. Ugh! I am NOT one of those parents that let my children do as they please....it just doesn't work that way. I lay the law and they need to follow the rules. But....THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ALWAYS DO!! That's when things just get ugly.
I have learned that consistency is crucial, as is follow-through. Make good on any promises of discipline or else you risk undermining your authority. Kids have to believe that you mean what you say. This is not to say you can't give second chances or allow a certain margin of error, but for the most part, you should act on what you say. When do you give the second chance? When do you follow through.... oh....those are the toughest questions! But as the parent you usually know what to do by what the child has done wrong.
I had to share because I had to discipline my son and it is the worst thing in the world that happens to him. He generally is a good kid, but being a "normal" little boy...he got himself into trouble. Not listening to me when I speak to you 3 times is a no, no. So it had to be done. Inside the house!! while the rest of the kids were in the yard playing....sorry pal, you should have listened when the adults told you to stop. Then to continue with the banging and crying???? He gets to go to bed early. Well that did it. ~He had to go to bed early one day last week. People FOLLOW THROUGH at least once!!!! When you say that you will do it again, it registers!!! The light bulb turns on (She sent me to bed early last week....she's not kidding). It worked for me...thank goodness because I can't stand the crying and the drama! Bottom line is that if you don't discipline your kids it will only make your life harder. EVERYONE needs guidance.
Just thought I might help someone today by posting this....trust me we are not alone!!!